“Create in me a clean heart, O God; And renew a right spirit within me. Cast me not away from thy presence; And take not thy holy spirit from me. Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; And uphold me with thy free spirit.” Psalm 51:10-12
This week we transitioned from the fall season into the winter months. Even if the darker mornings make for difficult waking, many welcome the change, but change isn’t always as expected or
welcomed. In fact, unwelcome change can come in many forms: a new supervisor, sudden change or loss of a job, diagnosis of illness, death of a loved one, or the delay of much-needed relief. One of the most disorienting parts of unexpected or unwelcome change is the lack of control that accompanies it. Often times the circumstances can’t be reversed, and we are forced to adjust our plans, hopes, and expectations.
Responding to unexpected or unwelcome change varies significantly by person and circumstance, but a few key things can help these disorienting times feel less distressing.
- Self-Care: in times of change, self-care can feel elusive and unimportant, but it is actually all the more critical. Taking care of your physical body (adequate sleep, proper nutrition, and fresh air) can help protect and enhance the mental and emotional energy you need. These things don’t need to be extreme. In fact, sometimes the simpler, the better. Breathe, Eat, Move, Sleep, Repeat.
- Connection: while not always the first instinct, reaching out to known support networks near and far can add strength and practical help. Letting people in your life know you need their support can be the first step to getting it. This might be friends, family, a church, or a social network.
- Professional Help: You may also find that your known resources feel insufficient. Adding support through counseling professionals can help bridge the gap. Asking for help can make all the difference. If you find yourself here, NuWell Counseling Services, professional online counselors, would love to support you! This advice to seek out professional help counts double with regard to any anxiety you may be experiencing. If you find yourself thinking seriously about the uninvited guest called, change! Please make an appointment with a mental health counselor as soon as you can.
Remember, we fear change because it means that outcomes are unknown. Our brains are designed to find peace in knowing. When we don’t know what will happen, we make up scenarios and, in turn, create worry. Humans find it hard to move on when something known comes to an end. The fear of failure also comes into play to create a fear of change. If we don’t know how something will turn out, we may rather not try because the outcome could be bad. Therefore, trying something new becomes a risk.
NuWell Counseling Services will help you embrace the new change so that it becomes your norm. Remember, you will have to face change again, and this change will soon become your new
normal, too, if you accept the professional help extended. Call NuWell Counseling Services and grant their online professional counselors the opportunity of helping you THRIVE!!!