“But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be
disqualified.” 1 Corinthians 9:27 ESV
Self-sabotaging behavior often goes back to our core beliefs about ourselves. If we don’t believe we are worthy of love, success, or health and fitness, we sabotage our relationships, finances, and weight loss programs. Limiting beliefs like “I’ve always been this way” prevents us from growing. No matter the cause of the self-sabotaging behavior, the results are always the same: We question our abilities and what we’re capable of achieving. Questioning every move we’ve ever made and over-analyzing past and future decisions prevent us from reaching our goals. When we’re overcome by self-doubt, it’s easy to want to throw in the towel and give up on trying to reach our goals. Any attempt to change one’s behavior must begin with identifying the trigger or root problem. That involves an honest self-check, willingness to change, and firm conviction to stay the course; it will be a challenge. Sometimes we can change of our own volition.
Sometimes we need accountability from reliable, loving friends, family members, and Christian counseling centers such as NuWell Counseling Services. Sadly, we see the results of self-sabotage on TV shows like Hoarders and My 600 lb. Life. A professional therapist is necessary when the root cause of self-destructive behavior is a serious trauma such as childhood abuse, neglect, or abandonment; sexual violation (molestation or rape); a serious psychological loss, injury, dysfunctional relationship, and even divorce. This sort of trauma leads a person to irrationally believe he or she deserved the abuse or mistreatment. When an individual is in a safe, caring, healthy therapeutic environment with a trained professional, the trauma may be explored carefully and resolved over time. Identifying self-destructive behavior is the beginning of success. Be realistic and honest with yourself. Look for patterns in your behavior, and graph/analyze your behavior to notice stressors.
Then connect stressors with behavior (response) to identify mistaken or harmful beliefs. Our goal at NuWell Counseling Services is to come alongside you who are struggling, to help you see yourself, and to walk with you through a process of self-examination. Our goal is not to send you into a cycle of endless Christian self-improvement or to urge you to bash your upbringing. We want to tell the Good News that God is there, not only for the dynamic Christian, but also for the hurt and the frustrated; “A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out, till he leads justice to victory.” (Matt. 12:20).
Nuwell Counseling Services desires to be a part of removing barriers between you and the people around you so you can glimpse at the healing that is available to us in the Kingdom of God. We
want to clear the path between you and God so you can relate to Him in a more authentic way. We desire for you to be your best self. The self who is called to THRIVE. Call NuWell Counseling Services TODAY and speak with one of our professional counselors.